רבי יהודה הנשיא היינו תנא קמא אלא לאו תנו לי בעלי ואשמח עמו איכא בינייהו
May it be suggested [that the question whether a betrothed woman may advance the plea], 'Give me my husband and I will rejoice with him' [is a matter of dispute between] Tannaim? For it was taught: '[In the case where] a person betrothes a woman,<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' And he died or divorced her before the wedding took place.
');"><sup>9</sup></span> [if] a virgin she is entitled to two hundred [<i>zuz</i>] and [to] a <i>maneh</i><span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' One hundred zuz.
');"><sup>10</sup></span> [if] a widow, Where it is the custom to return the [token of] betrothal<span class="x" onmousemove="('comment',' V. p. 620 n. 14, supra
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Tosefta Pesachim
In a place where their custom is to return the betrothal money [if the betrothed man or woman died before the marriage was consummated], they return it. In a place where their custom is not to return the betrothal money, they do not return it. In a place where their custom is to stand up and sit down [for eulogies at a funeral], they stand up and sit down. In a place where their custom is to not do it, they do not do. [Even where the custom is to stand up and sit down for eulogies,] one does not stand up and sit down more than seven times. In a place where their custom is to greet mourners on the Sabbath, they greet them. In a place where their custom is not to greet, they do not greet. In a place where the custom is for the mourners to walk behind the dead [in a funeral procession], they walk [behind them]. In a place where the custom is to not walk, they do not walk. In a place where their custom is to light candles on Yom Kippur Eve, they light candles. In a place where their custom is not to light, they do not light. Rabbi Shimon ben Elazar says, we light [candles] in inns and in mikvehs [on Yom Kippur Eve]. Those of whom it was said "they light," and those of whom it was said, "they do not light," they only said it in order [that people not become] accustomed to sin.
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